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Dog Safety Guidelines For Families

The bond between a kid and their dog is special and something to celebrate. Along with careful supervision, teaching kids the basics of dog behavior gives them the tools to recognize and respect boundaries, helping to ensure their safety and the dog’s comfort.



Teach Dog Body Language To Kids

Dog language is nonverbal, but dog behavior speaks volumes; you can teach kids how to “listen” to a dog by observing the dog’s body language. Most dog bites are preceded by a warning; learning to recognize the signs of a stressed dog or an impending bite helps kids know when to back off.


  • Dogs are social and active animals, give them regular opportunities for exercise, play, and human interaction to keep them happy, healthy, and ready to socialize. 
  • Dogs do not instinctively understand sharing but can be taught to share. 
  • Dogs who are exposed to children early are likely to be more tolerant of them. 
  • Dogs need their own safe, quiet place to retreat when they feel the need.


Children can be taught to read this “language,” but a very young child will have difficulty remembering and interpreting its subtleties; focus instead on gentle behavior and close supervision of any interactions. 

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1. Signs Of Aggression

  • Making themselves look bigger by rising onto the toes or raising the hackles
  • Barking
  • Bringing the ears forward or pinning them back
  • Stiffening the body, lengthening the tail straight out, or raising it slightly
  • Wrinkling the nose and showing the teeth, with or without snarling
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2. Signs Of Fear

  • Cowering and trying to look smaller
  • Pinning the ears
  • Averting the gaze
  • Showing teeth
  • Tucking the tail and trying to back away 
Looking up at a small dog with giant upright ears with trees behind it

3. Signs Of Alertness

  • Stands tall with or without raising their hackles
  • Closes or slightly opens their mouth
  • Keeps their ears up and pointed forward
  • Eyes open wide 
  • Keeps their tail up and/or wags it slowly as the dog evaluates a situation and decides what to do
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4. Signs Of Playfulness

  • Keeps their ears forward and tail wagging 
  • Possesses bright, wide eyes
  • Holds their mouth wide open and may pant excitedly 
  • Bounces around or play bows
  • Vocalizes eagerly or play growls
A brown and white dog asleep on a black furniture protector on a couch

5. Signs Of Relaxation

  • Keeps their tail down or wags it
  • Slackens their mouth and may even appear to smile 
  • Relaxed ears
  • Allows their tongue to hang from their mouth 
  • Their hair lies smooth and flat
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Two children stand on a back patio with two dogs sitting in front of them.
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Introducing Dogs To Children

Practice safe habits from the get-go; lead by example and teach your children. These basic dog safety guidelines can help you get started: 


  • If you have an infant or very young child, never allow a dog into the child’s room without close supervision. 
  • Help your child understand that dogs are sensitive to touch and don’t like to be squeezed tightly or pulled on, focus on emphasizing a gentle touch. 
  • Encourage your child to lower their voice when playing around dogs. 
  • Keep dogs and kids separated at snack time or during meals. 
  • Help your child learn to respect the dog’s quiet time; when the dog retreats to their crate or dog bed, it’s time to leave the dog alone. 
  • Discourage kids from putting their face close to the dog’s face.
  • Refrain from holding the dog’s gaze with direct frontal eye contact—dogs can interpret this as a threat. 
  • Teach kids never to approach the dog from behind. 
  • If the dog is on the sofa or chair and refuses to budge, help your child understand never to push or tug the dog out of the way, but to seek your help instead. 
  • Teach your child never to attempt to take a toy or treat from the dog.
  • Do not bother dogs while they’re eating, drinking, or sleeping.
  • Ask your child to get you if the dog is chewing something prohibited. 
  • Teach kids to ask a trusted adult for help when in doubt and if they feel uncomfortable around a dog. 
A small brown and white dog playing with a yellow ball outside on the green grass

Child’s Play: Safe Games For Kids & Dogs


Encourage healthy, fun socializing between kids and dogs: 

  • Fetch is a classic for good reason—just make sure you stick to the rules and instruct kids to walk away if the dog doesn’t obey the “drop” command you demonstrate; you don’t want fetch to turn into tug-of-war.  
  • Dog tricks are an excellent way to engage kids and dogs and strengthen their bond. Set up an agility course with low jumps, tunnels, and hoops to crawl through. This is also safe, rainy-day fun for dogs and kids indoors. 
  • A kid-friendly favorite, include the dog next time you play hide-and-seek using dog toys and treats. 


Avoid these activities to keep kids and pups safe: 

  • Allowing a puppy to chew on fingers and clothing 
  • Playing chase 
  • Encouraging a dog to jump up for food, a toy, or a stick 
  • Tug-of-war
  • Wrestling with the dog 
  • Teasing the dog
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Let Sleeping Dogs Lie

Teach kids to avoid interacting with dogs in these scenarios: 

  • Avoid petting or otherwise disturbing an unknown dog—always ask for the owner’s permission before petting and do so only in the company of a trusted adult.
  • Avoid bothering a sleeping dog.
  • Avoid bothering a dog who’s eating or drinking. 
  • Avoid trying to take away a toy or a treat from a dog; ask an adult for help.
  • Avoid a mother dog and her pups.
A child, man, and dog all fishing at the bank of a river

Building Confidence & Connection

Whether you have a dog at home or not, teaching kids how to interact safely with dogs is an important life skill. Teaching them early and building on their knowledge over time will help kids interact confidently with dogs and give you peace of mind so you can focus on celebrating and building the unique bond they share.

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